We live in a time where everything revolves around technology and the use of social media. I can honestly say that social media has taken a toll on my life in various seasons - not in a good way. Social media has its pros, but if you've used it long enough you've probably found yourself lost in this virtual world for hours at a time.
When I first became a Mom, I was instantly drawn to the idea of what type of person I desired to be. What memories did I want my children to have of me as a Mom? One of the thoughts that consistently came up was I didn't want to be remembered as always being in front of my phone or a computer. I remember spending time with my son and feeling so disgusted by the thought of always being on my phone.
The Disconnected Dad
As I was pondering these thoughts, I came across a podcast called, "The Disconnected Dad" by Seth Dahl. I've been following Seth for the past year because I absolutely love his parenting tips and the way he communicates about children. In "The Disconnected Dad" podcast Seth Dahl documents himself as he disconnects from the internet and all media for 30 days whenever he's with his family. In the podcast he shares his vulnerabilities, his weaknesses and the fruit of his journey.
As I've listened to the podcast I've been more and more encouraged to be watchful and mindful of my phone usage around my family. I've been forced to come to the reality of my obsessive usage of social media and having to put together practical ways in which I can see a change in my life for the betterment of myself and family.
Social Media Regulations
So here's the rules and regulations that I came up with for myself:
- No social media usage before 10:00am.
- No phone usage while I'm interacting and playing with Judah.
- No phone usage while having dinner as a family.
- Get as much work done on the computer while Judah is napping or having quiet time.
- Use the Moment app to document phone usage
By implementing these changes in my daily routine, I've noticed how more present I am when interacting with family. I'm forced to engage vs. being sucked into a virtual world of everyone else's life. I also love the fact that I'm more productive! The amount of time I was spending on social media could've been applied to so many areas of my life!
The End Result
I feel like I'm on this journey to simplicity. My desire is to get rid of everything that is causing my peace to be disrupted. Most importantly, I don't want any idols in my life! I want to be fully present in all that I do. Most importantly, I want to cherish these moments with my family!
So what about you? Are you willing to take the Disconnected Mama challenge? Do you also find yourself needing to implement boundaries in your social media and technology usage? Leave a comment and let's chat!